TIPS FOR MEN
Without the efforts of men, changes in sexual violence will likely not happen. Reject the idea that kindness is weakness and consider this:
- Realize that sexual violence is everyone’s issue regardless of gender.
- Believe that sexual violence hurts people that you care about of all genders. View yourself as an empowered bystander who can confront abusive peers.
- Don’t remain silent or look the other way when someone is being disrespectful or abusive. If you feel comfortable, talk to them about it. If you don’t know what to do, consult a friend, a parent, a teacher, a counselor or call a crisis hotline. RAINN is a national hotline reachable at 1-800-656-4673 or locally in Southern Nevada you can call Rape Crisis Center at 702 366 1640.
- Acknowledge how your own attitudes and actions may condone sexism and violence and work towards changing them.
- Gently offer your help if you suspect someone you are close to is being abused or has been sexually assaulted.
- If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help NOW.
- Be an ally to women who are working to end all forms of gender violence. Support the work of campus-based women’s advocacy centers. Raise money for community-based advocacy programs and emergency shelters.
- Educate yourself about how gender socialization and gender inequality become the root causes of conflicts between genders.
- Think critically about media images, printed materials, and lyrics that are violent and degrading to women and girls and choose to not participate in them.
- Mentor and teach young men how to be respectful in ways that do not involve degrading and abusing others. Lead by example.
- Ask women how issues relating to violence have touched their lives and listen to their responses.
- Mentor boys about effective bystander behavior that may prevent violence.
- Conduct an Internet search on “men against violence” to learn what other men are doing across the country to stop abusive behavior.
- Organize a men’s event to raise money for a local advocacy organization.
- Get involved in Nevada’s “Peace Begins At Home” campaign with Boy and Girl Scout leadership and help young scouts earn their badge. Continue to support this effort by exploring ways for all Scouts to collaborate and host one statewide event.
Ending sexual, relationship and stalking violence requires courage and a commitment to set change in motion. The time to become a responsible and engaged bystander is now.